“Men respond to direct communication. What do you need? Identify that, specifically, and ask him. No hemming or hawwing or excuses or fluffed up crap where you’re catering to his “fear of commitment.” “I think things with us are pretty solid and I’d like to give a real relationship a try. What do you think?” That’s it. Short and sweet.”
Bingo! And if you ask for anything (even the smallest thing) they are not ready, willing or able to give, they can give the roadrunner a run for his money (no pun intended). I tried this with a guy very recently. I simply said “hey, I would like to chat with you outside of text messages, how about we talk?” It was like I waved kryptonite at him. Moxie is right though, the OP needs to be honest with herself. Is she not willing to ask, so as to not rock the boat…?
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Paula Says:
March 8th, 2011 at 1:34 pm
Moxie — do you have the ability to set up the thumbs up/thumbs down rating system for your posts themselves in WordPres? I think this is a really good one, and there’s not much to discuss in the comments. I don’t know if it would be helpful to figure out the “Best of” columns in the future, or just to get a sense what your readership thinks about a particular post (even those who choose not to comment), but there are times I want to give what you say “thumbs up” rather than having to do that in the comments.
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